The most important thing to remember is that.......... IT IS YOUR WEDDING and you need to do it your way.

Create the ceremony with your values in mind. Don't be afraid to let your heart open up and show what's inside. Let it reflect you, your relationship and your belief system.

When meeting with the perspective Minister, get a clear understanding that you want them to read only your Ceremony and not add any additional input about their beliefs, unless you would like otherwise.

Ask the Minister if they are booked with another Wedding, the same day of your Wedding.

Ask the Minister "if you are ill, will there be a replacement available"?

Would you like the balance of the fee prior to the Ceremony?

What if a month or so before the ceremony, it has to be delayed for a period of time, does the deposit carry over and apply to the new wedding date?

Or does the fee change and if so, by how much?

Ask if there are any additional charges for:

  • Rewriting the Vows with major changes
  • Travel to Wedding and Rehearsal
  • Rehearsal with Processional Planning
  • Delay in Ceremony

Ask your friends, if they have had any experiences with Ministers that they would tell you about, good or bad.


Wedding Poem

By Unknown Author

Now you will feel no rain,

for each of you will be shelter for the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

for each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there will be no loneliness,

for each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two persons,

but there is only one life before you.

May beauty surround you both in the journey ahead

and through all the years,

May happiness be your companion

and your days together be good and long upon the earth.

"Treat yourselves and each other with respect,

and remind yourselves often of what brought you together.

Give the highest priority to the tenderness,

gentleness and kindness that your connection deserves.

When frustration, difficult and fear assail your relationship,

as they threaten all relationships at one time or another,

remember to focus on what is right between you,

not only the part which seems wrong.

In this way, you can ride out the storms

when clouds hide the face of the sun in your lives

remembering that even if you lose sight of it for a moment,

the sun is still there.

And if each of you takes responsibility

for the quality of your life together,

it will be marked by abundance and delight."

Hands of the Bride and Groom

(To Bride)

_______ please face _______, and hold his hands,

palms up, so you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend,

young and strong and vibrant with love,

that are holding yours on your wedding day,

as he promises to love you all the days of his life.

These are the hands that will work along the side of yours,

as you build your future together, as you laugh and cry,

and as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

These are the hands

you will place

with expectant joy against your stomach,

until he too, feels his child stir within you.

These are the hands that look so large and strong,

yet will be so gentle

as he holds your baby for the first time.

These are the hands that will work long hours

for you and your new family.

These are the hands that will passionately love you

and cherish you through the years,

for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will wipe the tears from your

eyes countless times:

tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will comfort you in illness,

and hold you when fear or grief wrack your mind.

These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin

and brush your cheek, as he raises your face

to look into his eyes: eyes that are filled completely

with his overwhelming love and desire for you.

(To Groom)

_______, please hold _______ hands, palms up, where you

may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, smooth, young and carefree,

that are holding yours on your wedding day,

as she pledges her love and commitment to you all the days of her life.

These are the hands that will hold each child in tender love,

soothing them through illness and hurt, supporting and encouraging them

along the way,

and knowing when it is time to let go.

These are the hands that will massage tension

from your neck and back in the evenings

after you’ve both had a long hard day.

These are the hands that will hold you tight

as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick,

or console you when you are grieving.

They are the hands that will passionately love you

and cherish you through the years,

for a lifetime of happiness.

These are the hands that will hold you in joy and excitement and hope,
each time she tells you that you are to have another child,

that together you have created a new life.

These are the hands that will give you support as

she encourages you to chase down your dreams.

Together as a team, everything you wish for can be realized.


Please Join me in prayer.....
God, bless these hands that you see before you this day.

May they always be held by one another.
Give them the strength to hold on
during the storms of stress and the dark of disillusionment.
Keep them tender and gentle
as they nurture each other in their wondrous love.
Help these hands to continue building a relationship
founded in your grace,
rich in caring,
and devoted in reaching for your perfection.

May (Bride) and (Groom) see their four hands as a healer,
protector, shelter and guide.

We ask this in your name,


Consider the weather for timing your cake to be delivered.

Take into consideration the position the sun will be in at the time of your wedding.

Then pick the area you will have the ceremony, keeping in mind if the sun will be in your face and if that is okay with you.

Also keep in mind how the sun will be positioned for your guests, especially the seniors.

When using an arch at the Alter always secure it down. One way is to use 4 each wire clothes hangers. Untwist the hanger and bow it like a horseshoe. Then secure the arch in two places on both sides, front and back. By shoving it into the ground, this usually secures it from the wind toppling over.


The most important thing to remember is that…………


Everyone loves to be of help and just because they give ideas doesn't mean you have to do it their way and you’re concerned that you'll hurt their feelings. Politely tell them "that's a good idea, I'll add that with the other ideas, thank you."

Create the ceremony with your values in mind. Don't be afraid to let your heart open up and show what's inside. Let it reflect you, your relationship and your belief system.

What if a Parent or Grandparent has passed away and you would like to Honor them at your wedding. One idea is to place a chair in position for them, then have the Minister mention the purpose of the empty chair. "This empty chair is placed in Honor of ........."

Another idea is......... If on the Groom's side, one of the Groomsman can place, in an empty chair, a pair of white gloves, then the Best Man can place one red rose. Then the Groom could place a picture of the deceased, and the Minister could mention the purpose. If on the Brides side and it's a woman who passed, a chair could be in place, empty, and one of the Brides Maids could place a white handkerchief, then the Maid of Honor could place a small bouquet of flowers, and then their picture.

For your wedding processional, you may want to have the Minister get in position at the Alter, (everyone usually takes their seat at this time.) Then have the Grandparents seated, then, the Groom seats his Mother and joins the Minister at the Alter. Then the Bride's Mother is seated, if by the Father of the Bride, he joins the Bride after seating the Mother. And now the Best Man joins the Groom at the Alter, and the Groomsmen follow.

At this time the Brides Maids come out, the Ring Bearer follows, then the Flower Girl, and the music changes to the Brides Wedding March. Then everyone is asked to stand for the Bride as she enters.

After the Ceremony, the Bride and Groom leave first, and after a long pause, then the Wedding Party follows in the order they came in. Including the Parents and Grandparents, and all go to the site of where the photographs will be taken.


Write down everything that you would like to have at your Wedding.

At least 6 months to a year before your Wedding day, call 3 or more Ministers to interview. Once you have made your decision, usually a deposit is expected to secure the date for you.

Also begin shopping for and booking your Caterer, DJ or live Entertainment, your Wedding Site, a Florist, what you will be wearing and what your Maid of Honor and Brides' Maids will be wearing. Get as many referrals as you can.

The week before your Wedding, if you choose, have your Maid of Honor and Brides Maids join you for a Tanning appointment, a Massage, a Pedicure and Manicure.


If your Wedding Ceremony is scheduled for 3 PM, around Noon begin fixinghair and makeup, then dressing. Always leave extra time just in case you want to give your Brides' Maids and Maid of Honor a gift. Make time to spend extra time with your Parents. And then anything that may come up, you'll be prepared and have time to deal with it.



12:00 PM

Florist delivers Flowers to Bride, Maid of Honor and Brides Maids at Hotel Florist delivers Flowers to Groom and Groomsmen at Hotel


Tables and Chairs Delivered and Setup at Wedding Site


Pre-Ceremony Photos of Groom, Best Man, and Groomsmen at Hotel


Wedding Cake Delivered to Site and Setup
(Does your cake need refrigerated?)
Limo Arrives at Hotel to take the Groom, Best Man, and Groomsmen to the Wedding Site


Pre-Ceremony Photos of Bride and Bridesmaids at Hotel


Groom, Best Man, and Groomsmen arrive on site


Bride and all of Her Wedding Party picked up by Limo at Hotel DJ arrives at site and sets up


DJ Begins Background Music
Guests Begin arriving and being seated
Photographer arrives on site


Honored Guests are Seated, (Mothers, Grandparents, etc.)


DJ begins Processional Music
Minister Takes Position at Alter
Brides Mother seated by Brides Father Then Returns To Bride
Groom Seats His Parents His Parents Then Joins Minister at Alter


Best Man Joins Groom at Alter
Groomsmen roll out carpet for Bride and Wedding Party then joins
Groom and Best Man at Alter


Ring Bearer, Brides Maids, Maid of Honor, then Flower Girls
Begin Wedding Processional


Bride and Her Father in Position
DJ Begins Wedding March
Bride and Father enter

Following the Ceremony, the Wedding Party and Immediate Family gather for Pictures, while Guests enjoy Beverages and Hors D'oeuvres. Also, have disposable cameras set on each table, for your guests to take pictures for you too. After Photos, the DJ asks Guests to be seated. The Wedding Party lines up and is introduced in order of Processional. Ring Bearers, Groomsmen and Brides Maids in a Couple Form, Best Man and Maid of Honor, Flower Girls, then Bride and Groom are introduced.

A Welcome Toast from the Wedding Party, Dinner is served, after dinner, The First Dance for the Bride and Groom. Then the Parent and Newlywed Dance, and Open Dancing follows.

Cut the Cake, Bouquet Toss, (remember to get a throw away bouquet, if you want to keep the original arrangement.) The Garter Removal and Toss, then the Bride and Groom have their Honeymoon Dance. Then Bride and Groom leave in the Limo, the Last Song of the Evening is played, and everyone is thanked for coming.



Wedding Site and Contact Person..........

Caterer and Contact…………………………..

DJ and Entertainment………………………..




Hotel Name and Contact........................


A really great way to have your Wedding is to find a restaurant that can accommodate your party size. Then be sure to make reservations well in advance. This way, everyone pays for their own, called a "NO HOST" Wedding, where they buy their own drinks and dinner.

Do you have a relative or friend that lives in a Mobile Home Park. They may have access to their club house for events. Just remember, you may have to get a liquor permit and pay extra insurance for the facility when having liquor.

Go to a local Park, the Ocean, do a Camp out, or someone's backyard. Just be sure you check out the places ahead of time, and see if you need to make a reservation in advance, if so how much earlier.

Organize a group of volunteers that are available to decorate and cleanup for you.

Do you have a Costco nearby, and are you and member or do you know someone who is? If so, they have great cakes, and the Wedding decorations are beautiful. They are still very reasonable in price. The last time I checked, a sheet that serves around 45 guests, was around $18.00. Keeping in mind, it may need refrigerated.

Costco also has big bags of salad mix, it may be a great place to shop. When shopping for bulk items, you usually save more money.

Check with your local grocer to see if they have a cold storage area that you can place big dishes for a short time.

Potluck and buffet style, is a great way to include everyone in the Wedding. You may want to make a list of how many you want to bring meat and the type of meat, and if you want to barbecue, have salads, bread, desserts, punch and beverages, etc.

You may want to ask the Grooms family to bring hard liquor and mixes, while the Brides side might bring the beer, wine and Champagne for Toasting.

Designate a few individuals to tend the bar area, then everyone gets to enjoy the party.

Order your cake top and decorations on-line, over the Internet. You may save on tax, but probably will need to pay for shipping and handling, unless they have discounts for large amounts. Be sure to get these in plenty of time, in case something needs replaced.

Go to your local craft store. Get crate paper to match the colors of the Bridesmaids dresses, for the Ceremony area and the Reception area.

On the center isle of the chairs, make a bow to hang facing the isle. And if you want an isle runner, the Craft store can usually supply it.

It is always a good idea to lay the runner just before the Ceremony begins. You can use crate paper to rope off the center isle so the guests won't walk on the isle runner. Then, as the Ceremony is ready to begin, the rope can be dropped.

Get paper bells or balloons to hang from the center of the reception room, with crate paper draping from the bells to each corner, where you can also hang bells or balloons.

Check around for someone who might have a family member that has a flower garden. Then use their flowers for your wedding and for the tables.

At the time you interview your Officiate/Minister, ask if they would be willing to orchestrate the Wedding Processional.

Place one or more disposable cameras at each table, so that everyone can take photos of the event. You can separately designate someone to do your Ceremony and Family photos if you wish. What a nice surprise when they get developed.

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